Have you ever wondered why people sometimes act in ways that don't make sense? This is what we call "irrationality." Even though we think humans are logical, we often do things that seem illogical. But there is a reason behind this irrationality.

Childhood and Early Experiences

Our early experiences shape how we think and act. From a young age, we learn how to interact with the world based on how our parents and caregivers treated us. These early interactions form "scripts" in our minds. Think of these scripts as automatic responses to certain situations. For example, if a child feels loved and safe, they might grow up to trust others easily. But if a child experiences neglect or harsh treatment, they might always be on guard, expecting the worst from people.

Motivational Needs

We all have basic needs that drive our behavior. These include physiological needs like hunger and thirst, and emotional needs like the need to feel loved and accepted. When these needs are not met, they can cause stress and anxiety. This stress influences how we react to situations, often in ways that seem irrational. For example, someone who feels unloved might go to great lengths to get attention, even if it means acting out in negative ways.

The Unconscious Mind

Much of our irrational behavior comes from our unconscious mind. This part of our brain stores memories and emotions that we might not be fully aware of. It influences our actions and reactions without us realizing it. For instance, you might get irrationally angry at a coworker who reminds you of someone you disliked in the past. You don't consciously make this connection, but your unconscious mind does.

Workplace Behavior

These patterns don't just affect our personal lives; they follow us to work. In the workplace, we bring our scripts and unconscious motivations with us. This can lead to misunderstandings and conflicts. For example, a manager who had controlling parents might micromanage their team, not because they don't trust their team, but because they are unconsciously replicating their childhood environment.

Understanding and Managing Irrationality

Recognizing the rationale behind irrationality can help us manage it better. Here are a few tips:

1. Self-awareness: Reflect on your actions and try to understand the underlying reasons. Are you reacting to the present situation, or are past experiences influencing you?
2. Stress Management: Find healthy ways to cope with stress. This can reduce the likelihood of irrational reactions.
3. Open Communication: Encourage open dialogue in the workplace. Understanding each other's backgrounds and motivations can help reduce conflicts.
4. Seek Feedback: Sometimes others can see our irrational behaviors better than we can. Be open to feedback and use it as a tool for growth.

By understanding the hidden reasons behind our actions, we can work towards more rational and positive behaviors, both in our personal lives and at work.

Written by Aneta Natova (LeadFit Global)